Dowry cases still continue to make headlines. There is however, little discussion about the underlying malaise that the dowry phenomena is really a symptom of: The inherent lack of self-worth in women.
This is belief that is planted and instilled in women from the moment of their birth. And we as mothers and fathers do much to strengthen and further entrench this false and damaging self-perception.
To many today, the lesser evolved of our species, the worth of a woman is measured by her (or her father's) bank balance and the assets she brings to the kitty. Is it not amazing how the fragile relationship between a man and woman who choose to make a life together and to raise a family, can be sustained by the payment of this toll tax?
It is not a new thing that for many, both men and women, marriage is a stepping stone to economic benefits. Call it dowry or call it marrying well. Money has always a part of the equation. So when do these expectations cross the limit and become criminal? Where is the line to be drawn? How is a girl to know and when is she to put her foot down?
It all boils down to being given a choice. Even today, how many women really have a choice? By offering women avenues to build their lives on their own, without having to resort to marriages based on dowry we will be striking at the root of it. And such evil must be removed from its roots. By offering women education and skills, we give them choices.
Women must be shown and made to appreciate their own self-worth and their limitless capabilities. Both men and women must recognise and realise this. Let us teach our children these values and eliminate this evil for good.
Read about an initiative that helped women set up their own businesses and gave them the confidence to make their own choices.
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/02/17/MNUFV3EO3.DTL
